How to Make Sex Exciting Again, and Keep it Exciting

When you were first dating, you couldn't keep your hands off of each other. You had sex at every opportunity, exploring each other's bodies and basking in the attention you received from your partner. But now that you've been together for awhile, maybe sex and intimacy has taken a back seat. Sure, you're still in love, but there's just not the same amount of time to devote to each other.

Think again. In the early days of your relationship you made time, making quality time with each other your first priority. It's not to say that you need to ignore everything else in favour of sex, but you do need to keep in mind that it's an important part of a healthy relationship. Sex also has many other benefits, like acting as a great stress reliever and studies have found it to lower types of cancer.

Maybe it's not that you're too busy - it could be that your libido is just in the pits. Often this is a matter of hormone imbalance of exhaustion rather than lack of attraction to your partner. Try a female supplement, like Lava, that's made from herbs that have been used for hundreds of years to get your excitement up.

No matter how long you've been together, there's always new ways to excite and get excited. Look at a long intimate relationship in a positive light, rather than ho-hum: you should be comfortable with each other, and you know the little touches and caresses that are sure to rev their engines. Expand on the knowledge you have.

First off, open up communication with your partner again. Chances are you haven't been on the same page about the frequency of sex. Whether it was you or your partner who wanted more sex, it's going to be a change that should be addressed. More than talking about how much sex, talk about what kind of sex and sex in general. If there's something that you've wanted to try, tell your partner; most likely they'll be encouraged by your frankness and share their own desires.

New positions are a great way to keep things exciting. There are many books out there that both describe and illustrate new sexual positions. Don't be intimidated; while there are some positions that require near-acrobatics, there are moves for even the least flexible of us. Try looking for a book that rates difficulty.

Remember that more sex isn't just about intercourse - be sure to up your cuddling, flirting and other such intimate time together. Don't forget that extended foreplay, especially for women, is often the best part of sex. It's a chance to not only sexually tease and please your partner, but also a way to show your love and appreciation.

With that said, don't underestimate the power of the quickie. It's a great way to keep you on your toes and mix things up. It's especially great for those times when you have barely enough time for sex. Just be sure that both of you are on the same page - because women often need longer foreplay to be ready for sex without it being painful or uncomfortable, she has to be ready for it. Try lubrication.

'Enough' sex is different for each couple, and is often different for each person in the relationship. Find a middle ground for both of you, and get going!